So I guess I'm going to blog myself crazy today....
But I was reading someone else's blog about dating people of different ethnicities. It's always been a touchy subject with me. However, today I wish to be enlightened. I am an un-married 28-year-old woman who has only seriously dated black men. None of the relationships have been successful. And unfortunately, I am the norm amongst black women throughout the country. 64% of black women are not married compared to 34% of white women.
But everyone seems to think the right one is out there.
Is he? .....Or is he in jail, not working, selling drugs, trying to be in the "entertainment industry", still living at home with his mama, married (but dating), not taking care of the children he's sprinkled across the country, or is obsessed with a big booty blasian, brazilian or white woman.
It's harsh...trust me, I know. But it's slowly becoming my reality when it comes to black men. I've encountered almost all of the above. Fortunately, I get a second look and often proposals of dating men of all different races. While some women say they aren't meeting anyone!
There is just something about a black man. His arrogance, his deep skin tone(yes I like the chocolate ones), his swagger, his determination. But those who are intimidated and use the "angry woman excuse" for not dating a black woman...is pathetic...and need not apply for this job.
Remember your mothers, your sisters and your grandmothers. They were probably all strong willed women. We are raised to be, because so many times we are left to raise our families alone...by the black man.
I am not bitter by those who have found love across culture lines but I do despise those who refuse to look twice at the black woman because of his own insecurities.
But the reality is many of our successful black men are dating and marrying other races: Quincy Jones, Taye Diggs, Reggie Bush, Don Cronelius, Terrell Owens, Charles Barkley, Cuba Gooding Jr, Ice T, Bryant Gumbel, Seal...the list goes on and on.
It's interesting because black men in my opinion are facinated with skin color, while white men who are attracted to black women don't have a preference.
So could Mr. Right be white? Some black women think so.
It's something that is becoming of great interest to the single black woman. ...Dating outside her race. However, it goes beyond black and white. What about a Hispanic man or a man of Asian decent????
Look at Halle Berry, Beverly Johnson, Tyra Banks, Venus Williams, Naomi Campbell. These are all women who have decided to look beyond color.
But can you look beyond culture? Can someone who doesn't look like me truly understand what it's like to be judged before I even utter a word???
I would looooove to hear from everyone, especially what white men think of black men dating white women. Women who have dated outside their race...and yes, the black man who doesn't mind being in an interracial relationship. ~E